Assertiveness
Assertiveness
is a lot more than saying yes or no. It implies recognizing and naming
your feelings, being able to express them and make decisions, acting
without asking others for help and always taking responsibility for
your behaviour and its consequences.
An assertive
person always feels free to express themselves. They can communicate
with anyone. They know where they are going in life; they chase what
they want, imagine, believe and achieve. They aren’t passive,
they don’t wait for things to happen and they don’t wait
for people to impose things on them. They always act as they deem
respectable, that way they conserve their own respect.
Assertiveness
defines the way to act in front of a situation that requires an answer
or decision. You can decide on the spot, with your natural reaction
or the way people expect you to act, or in a reasonable way.
Not only
do we use our assertiveness to make decisions, we also use reason.
This implies: defining the problem, looking for possible solutions
and valuing every option and then opting for the most adequate.
When a
person is sure of themselves, they can defend their rights and assume
responsibilities and obligations.
Life presents
problems to everyone, but the important thing is to know that we are
capable of confronting these problems efficiently.
Being
assertive promotes equality in interpersonal relationships through
open communication.
Being
assertive allows you to defend your own rights, you can say what you
think, feel and want clearly and directly, in the right moment, without
denying other people their rights and avoiding a passive and possibly
aggressive attitude.
Assertive
communication is indispensable in life, to get to know what other
people think, feel and act.
Being
assertive offers responsibility to experience satisfaction.
Aggressive
behaviour requires the richness of social interaction and provokes
negative defects, and deteriorates satisfaction and the communication
in human relationships.
A non
assertive attitude exhibits manipulation and physiological control
to others.
Nobody
can manipulate other people’s emotions.
Carrying
out assertiveness helps you to protect yourself in risky situations.
It strengthens the sense of responsibility and gives you security.
