Feels
open to change.
Feels
comfortable with receiving physical contact from the people he loves.
Feels
comfortable taking risks and looking for alternatives.
Doesn’t
have problems when couples split up, as long as it is explained
to him and he realises the reasons for the separation.
Has
a trusting relationship with people he knows.
Accepts
assessment and evaluations that he receives. He speaks openly about
his difficulties, always thinking about a solution.
Forgives
unfairness looking for the solution or a way to repair the consequences.
Is open
to mutual and respectful interaction with others.
Is aware
of what is expected from him, and if not, tries to find out.
Revise
the house and school rules which don’t seem adequate. The
rules should be clear and discussed with the child so that he feels
they are fair. Determine new rules which give the child access to
acting freely in situations without reprimand.
Create
contexts in which the child enhances his self-esteem and security.
Give him the opportunity to show his creativity and show him that
people rely on him and that he is capable of facing and resolving
situations, conflicts and problems with the means and resources
he has.
Propose
reference models that allow him to feel happy about himself. Don’t
compare him to others as this will make him feel as though he is
not worth a lot. Show him reference models with the intention of
learning new ways of acting.
Show
him you have faith and confidence in him.
Make
the child understand and accept that you can learn from mistakes.
Immediate
acknowledgement if the child does something positive that we have
asked him to do.
When
you praise your child for something, you need to make it very clear
that your appreciation for his behaviour is not the reason for your
affection. You love him for what he is and not for what he does,
although this does reinforce your affection.
Stimulate
the child so that he makes ambitious but possible plans. Plans that
he visualises as if they were a dream but without expectations,
without the need to fulfil them, because if he thinks he has to
fulfil them this could produce frustration. Motivate him to act
from the perspective that he can and that if he doesn’t achieve
it, it doesn’t matter. He will always learn from his new ambitions.
Make
the child from a young age realise the importance of being and acting
yourself.
Highlight
and accept as a positive thing, we are all in a world of constant
change, whether we like it or not. Everyone can modify the quality
of their changes and the rhythm of their own life.