Excessive
dependency on adults – as he not only thinks but believes
he alone doesn’t know anything.
He doesn’t
have any sense of creativity or independent personal action.
He believes
that success depends on luck and the help of others.
He doesn’t
accept small positive progress; he considers this progress insufficient
to modify his confidence in himself.
He doesn’t
understand why there should be alternative ways to do something.
He worries
about the future instead of acting in the present.
He gives
in easily as he doesn’t have any faith in himself.
He lacks
the sense that you can learn from your mistakes.
He often
uses phrases like “I can’t” <I’m not
capable of> etc not only with himself but also when talking to
people.
He lacks
the sense that he can ask for help and support from others.
He refuses
to contribute his ideas and opinions, as he tells himself that they
aren’t worthy, that others aren’t interested in them.
He doesn’t
dare run any risks; he already has enough problems with his insufficiency.
He takes
all success and deeds for granted, not only his own but other people’s
too. Sometimes envy invades him because he is not capable of doing
as well as others.
He finds
it difficult to accept his and other people’s weaknesses and
he does not express his ideas or opinions.
He doesn’t
get involved in jobs or tasks as he fears failure or making mistakes.
As a result he ends up isolating himself and missing opportunities.
He finds
it difficult to recognize his skills as not recognizing them gives
him justification for bad results. Saying that he is not able to
do something, seems less dangerous than failing to do something
and then feeling bad because of it.
He doesn’t
know how to loose and as a result does not have a good sporting
spirit.
He often
shows his frustration, resignations, challenges and non constructive
dreams.
