Conditional
love for children: “If you don’t get good marks in your
exams, I’m not going to love you”.
Constantly
saying “No”: Don’t do this, don’t be late,
etc.
Inconsistent
behavioural rules: Dad gives one order and mum gives a different
one.
Dad doesn’t
give permission, but Mum does.
Being
told off by someone who is extremely angry, using swear words….
Parents
showing indifference, they don’t know when their son is ill,
if he eats, where he is…..
Rigid
family rules: whoever comes home after 12 won’t have breakfast
at home!
Important
loss during childhood: mother, father or other member of family.
Physical
or sexual abuse: hit, rape…..
Alcoholic
mother or father or parents that are drug addicts.
Over
protecting parents.
Parents
that always give in.
Communicating
different ideas: a double standard message: one person says one
thing and then acts differently to what he said. Example: a father
tells his child not to lie and then he lies.
Highly
stressful situations or post traumatic stress can cause low self-esteem.
