love for children: “If you don’t get good marks in your
exams, I’m not going to love you”.
saying “No”: Don’t do this, don’t be late,
behavioural rules: Dad gives one order and mum gives a different
give permission, but Mum does.
told off by someone who is extremely angry, using swear words….
showing indifference, they don’t know when their son is ill,
if he eats, where he is…..
family rules: whoever comes home after 12 won’t have breakfast
loss during childhood: mother, father or other member of family.
or sexual abuse: hit, rape…..
mother or father or parents that are drug addicts.
that always give in.
different ideas: a double standard message: one person says one
thing and then acts differently to what he said. Example: a father
tells his child not to lie and then he lies.
stressful situations or post traumatic stress can cause low self-esteem.