Precise
self-esteem
Self-esteem
is one of the most relevant factors in a person’s well being
and it is the key to maintaining relationships with people in certain
environments.
If we tend
to overvalue the difficulties or defects without valuing the possibilities,
the overall situation (our perception) this can make us feel unsatisfied.
If this wave or thought is generalized, we will act with fear and
it is likely that these mistakes will happen again in the future.
We can
also have distorted thoughts, if what we have is an exaggerated feeling
of self-esteem, this can create problems, which will mean we will
not be able to solve the problems adequately.
In our
society people ask us to be perfect, the best! The ideal situation
is to feel that a part of us is marvellous, the part that refers to
our capacities. We are good at certain things, we have qualities that
we use, we have achieved things, etc.
The other
part of us stores out limits. If we are sometimes hateful, get angry,
we are weak or afraid, we don’t know what to do, we make a mistake.
We try to hide our limits, as we are embarrassed of them. We pay so
much attention to our defects that we make them present and worsen
matters by not accepting them, changing them or coming out of certain
situations. All of this energy demands us to develop our capacities
and overcome them.
We need
to accept ourselves as we are with limits and abilities. Love ourselves
without conditions. Only when we accept this will we feel an increase
in our self-esteem. We need to expect the best of ourselves.
